2: When self-awareness turns into self-deception: The quest to always be right. watch the film or read.

Introduction

In the previous post we talked about discovering yourself. But what happens when self-development takes a darker turn? When the desire for control, success, and “right answers” becomes so strong that you stop questioning yourself?

This is the story of a person who gradually loses the ability to self-criticize – and begins to believe that their own thoughts are reality itself.

The need to win – no matter what

For some, it starts as a healthy ambition: to succeed, learn, and improve. But it can develop into something more extreme:

• Everything becomes a competition

• Errors become unacceptable

• Other people's perspectives lose value

In psychology, this is often described as an exaggerated link between self-esteem and achievement.

When the ego takes over

Gradually, a change occurs:

• The person begins to believe that they are always right.

• Criticism is perceived as an attack

• Relationships become more superficial or conflict-filled

This may resemble traits of narcissistic personality disorder, but it does not necessarily mean that the person has a diagnosis.

Thoughts become “truth”

A dangerous phase occurs when the person ceases to distinguish between:

• Thoughts (subjective perceptions)

• Reality (what actually happens)

This phenomenon is related to what is called cognitive bias – specifically confirmation bias:

• Seeking information that confirms one's own thoughts

• They ignore what contradicts them.

The result? A self-reinforcing bubble.

The consequences

Although the person may achieve outward success, it often comes with a price:

• Solitude

• Conflicts in relationships

• Stress and burnout

• Lack of true self-awareness

Ironically, the person loses the very thing they may have started seeking: understanding of themselves.

Is there a way back?

Yes – but it requires one of the most difficult things there is: admitting that you can be wrong.

Possible steps:

• Practice listening without defending yourself

• Seek out honest feedback

• Reflect on your own reactions

• Possibly talk to a professional

Self-awareness is not about being perfect – but about being honest.

A final reflection

Think about this:

• When was the last time you were wrong – and admitted it?

• Are you open to the fact that your thoughts are not always the truth?

Discovering yourself is not just about building yourself up – but also about daring to tear down illusions.